Last year, a friend betrayed my trust and repeated my personal rants to their subject: his sister. It resulted in a catastrophic blow-up that brought a parent into the ridiculousness. No, it was not mine. I’ve had to fight my own battles and win my own wars since I was old enough to start them. My mother taught me, if I was old enough to get myself into trouble, I was old enough to get myself out of that trouble. Their mother does not believe the same. (The sister will turn 22 in February.)
This Thanksgiving, this same friend addressed an aside to his father about his sister. And, according to the friend, it was more of a look than a distinct comment. The next day, his sister texted him, “If you don’t like me doing that, you should just tell me. I’m sick of you treating me like a five-year old and thinking you’re better than me.” {pro for karma}
Granted, this entire situation could have been avoided if my friend had listened to me {pro for karma} and broached the topic with his sister when his frustrations first arrived a week earlier. He’s a little passive-aggressive and hid behind excuses instead of taking action. I could have said something but I’m already too easy a target to pin the villain tail on. I wanted to stay out of this spat. {con for karma}
He actually listened to my advice this time, responding, “I would have talked to you sooner about this but you always had company. I think it’s best to talk in person,” and then called his mother for how best to talk to his sister.
His mother, of course, unleashed all her fury on me. {con for karma} God forbid her children are capable of any wrongdoing and, in case you couldn’t tell, passive-aggressiveness slightly runs in the family. Even with me going out of my way to stay out the sister’s way and avoid any arguments and awkwardness, I still get dragged into this mess. Because I’m forthright and honest, people who don’t know me or willfully misunderstand me label me a bitch. I deserve neither such censure nor such praise. {con for karma?} But it certainly is easy to direct frustrations at me; especially in ongoing situations.
This “argument” has yet to be resolved so I’ll keep you abreast on whether karma wins out or not. Oh, and on the whole friend vs. sister thing, too.\
Granted, this entire situation could have been avoided if my friend had listened to me {pro for karma} and broached the topic with his sister when his frustrations first arrived a week earlier. He’s a little passive-aggressive and hid behind excuses instead of taking action. I could have said something but I’m already too easy a target to pin the villain tail on. I wanted to stay out of this spat. {con for karma}
He actually listened to my advice this time, responding, “I would have talked to you sooner about this but you always had company. I think it’s best to talk in person,” and then called his mother for how best to talk to his sister.
His mother, of course, unleashed all her fury on me. {con for karma} God forbid her children are capable of any wrongdoing and, in case you couldn’t tell, passive-aggressiveness slightly runs in the family. Even with me going out of my way to stay out the sister’s way and avoid any arguments and awkwardness, I still get dragged into this mess. Because I’m forthright and honest, people who don’t know me or willfully misunderstand me label me a bitch. I deserve neither such censure nor such praise. {con for karma?} But it certainly is easy to direct frustrations at me; especially in ongoing situations.
This “argument” has yet to be resolved so I’ll keep you abreast on whether karma wins out or not. Oh, and on the whole friend vs. sister thing, too.\
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